Last week, I asked about arguing with the spouse.
Interestingly enough, while it was one of the more popular newsletters, the poll turned out to be the least popular with only a handful people filling it out. Half said they don't argue much, and gave great advice. Still I wonder if there might be a silent majority out there. ;-)
I really appreciate the great tips folks gave. Thought I'll take the time to share, and have made all the comments anonymous.
I appreciated this one about being oldest or youngest child -- I can definitely relate to that bossiness of the oldest. ;-)
This one also has a good point. A lot of it isn't how we are individually but the weight of juggling work and life, including kids!
This one is very wise. :)
Lastly, we all know that children learn both good and bad ways of communicating from us parents and those around them and that they will unknowingly repeat / mirror what they see creating habits good and bad. So it's important that we realize we're teaching at all times whether we want to be or not (basic again, but not easy when in the middle of a disagreement).
Microsoft CEO Satya Nadella gave one book to every individual at Microsoft after being appointed CEO. The book is titled 'Nonviolent Communication A Language of Life." It deals with all of this and more, and is a worthwhile read for anyone. Link below (check the reviews out):
Thank you! I've very humbled by your sharing. And that book is one I really love. I can talk more about that another time if you'd like.
Speaking of how children learn form us... I've been talking to my son about the need to explain anger instead of expressing it (usually for him in the form of walking around the house being SILENTLY UPSET.)
You know how sometime you talk to your kids, and you think or hope they got it, but honestly have just no idea? :)
Well, apparently my 4th grader was totally listening! Look at this nice note he wrote (in cursive no less) when he was upset with daddy about something.
"If parents act strictly it wont' solve the problem. From the Talk so kids will listen and listen so kids will talk [the book] and mom's emails it said that punishment & rewards and the so-called "fear tactic" will not persuade the child to fix what is wrong.
Also, I can feel like a slave when I have to do something, because [he means and] some things kids never get to try (unless it's unsafe?)."
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