Some days, it's hard to shake off the feeling that your kids are here to test you.
Right after my writeup last week about getting kids to own the summer routine, my son lost his lunchbox and swimwear.
I asked him to talk to his teacher about lunchbox and swimwear. He shrugged it off; so I did. Now I'm regretting not letting him have the chance to really own his responsibilities.
My son is 9 years old, a rising 4th grader. I feel more recently that he's had more hangry episodes and lashing out. He's refused to do his homework before playing videogames. (And it doesn't help when the hubby sees nothing wrong with videogames and watches hours of TV himself. But I'm digressing. :)
I decided it's time for all of us to read the book "How to Talk So Kids Will Listen and Listen So Kids Will Talk", my parenting bible. I figured, if I can't act it out sufficiently well, at least we can all read about what we're supposed to do, and work on this together.
(My trick to doing things that I find hard on my own is to get a group together to do it. Hey, Weight Watchers is a very successful business. ;-)
My daughter, always the excited one, dug up the cartoon section for us. "Oh, oh, I can read this."
While my son enjoyed reading what you're "supposed to do".
Image/book credit: https://www.amazon.com/How-Talk-Kids-Will-Listen/dp/1451663889/
We read the cartoons together. We also did the exercise together on when this happens, what's the feeling? Our kids enjoyed guessing the feelings and what to say. We then talked about what it all means:
"What should we do the next time someone's upset? Do you tell them it's no big deal?" "Noo...."
I found my son continue to read the book after we put it down together. A few peaceful days went by, then one day, food took a long while to cook, and my son was getting more and more hangry.
"You seem a bit upset and angry."
"Yeah I've been waiting an hour!"
Dinner's ready but it's super hot. Exasperated, my son got up from the table and walked away stomping.
My husband would normally order him back with force. But we're trying to show understanding. "It can be frustrating to wait a long time for dinner."
"Yeah, I'm really hungry. and the food is so hot." My son walked back, on the verge of tears. "Let's mix it to cool down."
We had a good dinner together. Well, let's see how the next emotional moment in our house goes. ;-)
This weekend we'll try to hit Shakespeare in Denahy Park on Sunday afternoon. My husband is still debating whether to take the kids to the Patriots training camp (he's never been himself.)
And next weekend we're super-psyched for the Run & Ride at Cambridgeside. Our kids had a lot of fun last year and watched their friend Ethan win 2nd place! Hope to see some of you! Be sure to register as there will be tons of kids.
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